Thank you and its importance in good communication
Thank you is
something that we are all taught to say from a young age. Saying thank you is
respectful and polite but it’s actually much more than that. We are taught to
say it when we receive a gift, or someone does something kind for us. We say it
as it is a way of acknowledging what the other person did and shows we
appreciate it. Sometimes we don’t say it enough to our partner and we assume
the other person knows we appreciate them. This may not be the case and often
in relationships it’s important to say the words in order to communicate
clearly.
As a response to
criticism
Often when people
criticise our heart centre closes up and we don’t even want to speak to them. Sometimes
though criticism may be constructive and if it is then best to take it on
board. In that case you can thank them for their feedback which also serves to neutralise
the situation.
When people butt in
Similarly, sometimes
we may feel like telling someone to just ‘mind their own business’ when they
butt in. It could be a situation where someone thinks they are being helpful by
giving advice but it can be quite irritating. A simple thank you can stop unnecessary
conflict. Sometimes blunt, unflattering words can give us very helpful feedback.
Instead of going into defence mode if we take it on board it may be a way to
inspire our future progress.
As a response when someone
is being nice
Have you ever
received a compliment and flicked it off rather than just saying ‘thank you?’
Have you made it sound like you did nothing special? This is deflecting the
compliment and devaluing it. So in future why not simply say thank you and let
it make you feel good?
Running late
The usual response
for being late is an apology. This keeps the focus on ourselves. Whilst it may
be stressful for you to run late it is also disrespectful for the other person.
So instead of a ‘sorry’ why not thank the other person for waiting for you, for
their patience and understanding. This shifts the focus to them.
Customer service
What is your
response when someone complains about your product or service? Do you become
defensive and try to put the blame onto the customer asking how they used the
product, or if they followed the instructions properly? Would it not be better
to listen to what they have to say, thank them for the information, ask for
more details and thank them for the feedback? Then in a calm way you can decide
how you can cement the relationship.
Grief
Perhaps another
important place to say thank you is when someone comes to you in grief after a
loss. Sometimes we are uncomfortable and don’t know what to say so we try to
calm them reminding them they will always have the memories of their loved one.
These platitudes though really don’t help much. Is it not better to thank them
for trusting you enough to share their feelings with you and to hear them out?
So as you can see
these two words, ‘thank you’ can have a powerful meaning to show your
appreciation and open the lines of communication with others. Perhaps it would
be a good idea to use them more often.
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