Self-love opens the way to forgiving yourself for the mistakes we all make as human beings. Forgiveness is not only something you give to others; it is also something that you need to do for yourself. Something that you may need to give to yourself when you feel as though you have betrayed someone you loved, or if you have overstepped a boundary, you thought you’d never cross, or even when you have intentionally inflicted harm upon yourself or another. Many of us have said yes to one of these actions. It doesn’t make you a bad person to have done these things, it makes you human. You are definitely not alone. Many of us have been there in differing degrees. This however doesn’t excuse anything you have done; self-responsibility is crucial. At the same time hating yourself won’t make anything better. Is it time you gave yourself some forgiveness?
How to give yourself forgiveness
Self-forgiveness is forgiving your past
wrongdoings. It means changing how you perceive yourself and what happened by
looking at it compassionately and with self-understanding. When you come to a
deeper understanding of why you did what you did, then hold yourself in the selflove,
you can start to let go and forgive yourself.
When you understand why you did what you did you
can prevent the same mistake from happening again. Learning how to forgive yourself
is vital as self-forgiveness can bring a new meaning to your life. It will help
you to grow, change, and transform in a positive way.
It’s good sometimes to feel guilt and shame up to a
certain point. It’s important to grieve, regret and repent in some way your
behaviour, in order to learn and change as a person. Self-forgiveness will help
you to stop dwelling in the past, and begin living in the present moment. By
forgiving yourself you will gain more hope for the future and also find it
easier to forgive others. Developing self-love and understanding will increase
your energy and motivation helping you to become an even better person.
Handling guilt and shame
You may sometimes feel haunted by a thought or
intention that you have secretly carried, but more importantly it is the things
we have done that will bring the most guilt and shame. Some of these things may
include bullying someone, cheating on your partner, spreading rumours,
stealing, physically hurting a loved one or destroying people’s property.
It is important to have a certain level of guilt
and shame after hurting yourself or someone else because without guilt, you
would sociopathically ignore the impact of your behaviour. If that happens with
lots of people it would cause havoc in society. However, too much guilt and
shame can become toxic and fester inside you. You need to be able to let go of
what you have done and move on because it will create a negative and
unrealistic picture mentally for yourself.
If you need help with self-love, guilt or shame
give us a call, email or text and we will set up a time to speak with you and help
you with that. It only takes one step to begin to fulfil your journey.
